//Be still and know that He is God. Be still and know that He is faithful. Consider all that He has done. Stand in awe and be amazed, and know that He will never change. Be still. //

Be Still  and Know: Steven Curtis  Chapman

Taking ownership of our wrong doings shoots us forward out of shame.

This month I want to focus on ownership of wrong doings. It’s easy to push-off what we know we have to do. It’s easy to blame someone or something else for our shortcomings. It’s not easy to say, “I’m at fault. This is what happened. I’m sorry. I’ll do better.” I want to take this sentence and break that down. Acceptance. Truth. Repentance. Overcome.

So to set the story and keep this to truth, let’s view an example. Let’s take a look at Genesis 3:1. Right off the bat we can point fingers. The snake made me do it. “One day he asked the woman, “Did God really say you must not eat the fruit from any of the trees in the garden?” Here we can ask the question. Why was Eve even talking to the enemy. She could have made a choice to turn, and walk away. She instead choose to engage with the enemy. Verse 2 was her response. In verse 4, I want to take a moment and explore more about this. “Knowing both good and evil.” Could this be a revelation of how the devil spoke to Eve? Half truths. Just enough truth to deceive into believing a lie. This tree was never planned for man to take of. Instead Eve choose to partake of the lie. Which ultimately lead to her down fall. As we continue into verse 6 it states how much Eve wanted to eat the fruit. The enemy gave her a desire she was never meant to take part of. As it continue she eats the fruit and then the next part is shocking realization. “The she gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it too.” Right there you can no longer blame Eve for eating the fruit. It doesn’t speak of when Adam entered into the scene. But by this point he was with her. Silence can be just as bad as talking. In this case Adam did not speak up to prevent this sin. He chose to remain silent. Then not only remained silent, he partook of the fruit as well. Now the next statement is revelation into what we deal with now a day. Verse 7, “at that moment their eyes were opened, and they suddenly felt shame at their nakedness.” Shame. They felt shame. An emotion that was never meant for them to feel. At this moment the world could not judge not only each other. But they could judge themselves. They could look at themselves and deem themselves unworthy into stepping in the presence of God. Which is proven in the next statement. “The man and his wife heard the Lord God walking about in the garden. So they hid…” BUT God. Verse 9, “where are you?” Now that sounds odd doesn’t it? Why would God say this. He’s all-knowing. Could it be God wanted us to realize even though He knows what we’ve done He’s willing to meet us where we are at in order for justice to prevail? Not to punish us, but that we may be given a chance to repair our relationship with Him.

As we continue on with this story we begin to get to the meat of blame. Verse 10, gives us motive to hide our sins or flaws. “I was afraid.” Even now we still feel afraid after we do something wrong. Each person has experienced this differently. Some have been given more grace for the flaws by man. But ultimately God gets the last say. Verse 11, “who told you that you were naked? The Lord God asked. “Have you eaten of the fruit from the tree whose fruit I commanded you not eat?” Direct questioning. Now this may be me. But when people begin to not sugar coat and get direct with me, I begin to crack like humpty dumpty. God is very direct. Here was the chance for Adam or Eve to speak up and take ownership of their wrong doings. Instead they begin to play the blame game. Finally it comes out that the snake was the culprit. God in His justice cursed the snake and proclaimed the enemy’s destiny. Even though it would have been great to just end the story there it continues. God gave Adam and Eve a chance to be redeemed. Instead they choose the path of destruction. Now let’s jump down to verse 21. “The Lord God made clothing.” Even after cursing the enemy and mankind. He never left Adam and Eve. He provided. Even after the punishment He remained a good good father and provided for His children. So the rest of the story is they were kicked out of the garden and angels sat at the entrance with swords of fire.

So let review those 4 concepts. Acceptance. Truth. Repentance. Overcome. While not all these steps came to pass. We can use this model to pursue rebuilding healthy relationships. Adam and Eve finally accepted they did wrong. It hit them like a ton of bricks. From that point they were able to tell the truth of the situation. They really didn’t take full ownership of the situation. But they were given the opportunity to repent. To state their wrong and ask for forgiveness. After it was all said and done, they overcame their situation by returning to the relationship and their love for God. These concepts can be used in your life. God probably was disappointed in mankind, but it didn’t stop Him from loving them. Even in the end He remained faithful and provided clothing, and so much more. He showed them grace.

In close this session today, I want you to think about the previous building blocks we’ve set up. Learning how to stay accountable. Learning to forgive. Learning how to move in God’s promises. Now we’ve learned how to take ownership. These aren’t concepts you learn overnight. There is grace for that. It’s trial and error. Learning not to beat yourself up when you make a mistake. But rather moving forward in repairing the relationship. Not only can you do this with God, but you can do this with family, friends, even strangers. It’s not always easy, but it’s worth it. Continue growing in Him as He makes the way and provision. Peace and blessings!!